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5 Responses to “After 17 years of marriage I feel it is falling apart.help?”
its a common reaction and its what gets most guys caught, the way we get defensive when we have been half caught out. Check his phone messages, listen in to late night phone calls, and make sure that when he’s “gone to the pub” or “watching the footy with his mates” that he is actually doing it. If you call at a time when hes doing either of these things, and he gets angry at you or tells you he cant talk at the moment, then he is cheating, and you need to find the base of the problem, or simply leave him
Your husband has insecurity issues and you need counseling; see one – with or without him – and tell him straight up that if he wants a younger, prettier woman, that he’s welcome to go. If anything, it will end the charade and give him a chance to either walk or re-commit to you.
But you must be ready for him to walk, because he might choose to do so. If he does, it’s his loss – and I don’t just mean 50% of all your property.
sounds like he likes to mentally mess with your mind and your emotions. Even after 17 years he is acting like a child. Sounds to me that he feels he is getting older and wants and needs attention from others. ( a complex ) he has about himself and he dismisses you for you get attention naturally from others and he doesn’t. He might be jealous when you speak to other men although he shouldn’t be going nuts. I mean, it is not as if you are sleeping with those men or guys you may speak too. I suggest talking with him about all of this today.
January 1st, 2009 at 7:07 pm
alice
Why deal with all this DRAMA. It’s time to PART waves.
January 3rd, 2009 at 8:02 pm
franpe
i am telling you right now,
as a guy, i know.
without a doubt, he is cheating on you.
its a common reaction and its what gets most guys caught, the way we get defensive when we have been half caught out. Check his phone messages, listen in to late night phone calls, and make sure that when he’s “gone to the pub” or “watching the footy with his mates” that he is actually doing it. If you call at a time when hes doing either of these things, and he gets angry at you or tells you he cant talk at the moment, then he is cheating, and you need to find the base of the problem, or simply leave him
January 3rd, 2009 at 10:36 pm
ana
Your husband has insecurity issues and you need counseling; see one – with or without him – and tell him straight up that if he wants a younger, prettier woman, that he’s welcome to go. If anything, it will end the charade and give him a chance to either walk or re-commit to you.
But you must be ready for him to walk, because he might choose to do so. If he does, it’s his loss – and I don’t just mean 50% of all your property.
January 6th, 2009 at 12:33 pm
noro
Pray for him and tell him that you really want your marriage to work but you can’t do it alone. Good Luck!!
January 6th, 2009 at 7:12 pm
ramcke
sounds like he likes to mentally mess with your mind and your emotions. Even after 17 years he is acting like a child. Sounds to me that he feels he is getting older and wants and needs attention from others. ( a complex ) he has about himself and he dismisses you for you get attention naturally from others and he doesn’t. He might be jealous when you speak to other men although he shouldn’t be going nuts. I mean, it is not as if you are sleeping with those men or guys you may speak too. I suggest talking with him about all of this today.